Marriage, the relationship that seeks togetherness in the upcoming seven births, is also like giving yourself another birth. The way two people have lived for the past 25-30 years gets blended, giving it an altogether different direction. And then, isn’t it just a notion that this new life is hard for the wife only? It is equally challenging for the husband as well, isn’t it?
Indian families prepare males to earn so they can fulfill the needs of the house and take care of their wives & children, while the females are taught to cook and take care of the house, husband, and children. But something not directed to us is what to do and what not to do in a marital relationship.
So, are there any ways that can help strengthen the marriage? How can a couple become an ideal couple? How can you make your marriage successful?
Here are a few tips that can help you to strengthen your marriage –
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Keep the Poison of ‘Silence’ Away
Silence acts as a slow poison in any relationship and is the key to all misunderstandings. Communication is the most vital thing in a relationship. Couples who keep transparency have a stronger bond. So, just like you share the smallest emotion with your best friend, talk and share everything with your partner and witness wonders happening. Sometimes, it does happen that a couple has consumed the poison to some extent and is reluctant to initiate a conversation. In that case, think about your happy times and ask yourself – ‘Is the silent treatment really needed?’ If the answer is no, take the initiative and start the conversation. Begin by sharing small bits that happened in your day, and form them into a habit. Once this gets achieved, the next step is to take it ahead.
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Prioritize Each Other’s Happiness
We stay in a selfish world, and hence unknowingly, selfishness has been inculcated in our nature too. We fail to understand what difference it will make if we go to a movie of our partner’s choice or watch cricket together. A search to have someone with the same interests appears when partners give choices to search for it. Why can’t couples do things together in such a way that there is no need to look for alternatives? A small help in the kitchen or giving a head massage to your partner are yet simple ways to bring smiles to each other’s faces.
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Allow Your Relationship to Breathe
Some couples do not allow each other to spend time with their friends, relatives, or colleagues. This might lead a partner to lie to their spouse. Understand that everyone needs a break from their routine. Sometimes you might want to party with your friends, in which the spouses are not welcome, and the same goes for your partner. But yes, in this process, never try to take advantage of the space and keep things transparent.
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Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
The problem with most of us is that we listen to react, not understand, and sadly, this is the cause of many broken relationships. An individual must be able to share everything with the spouse so confidently that one knows that his/her partner will understand the situation and support each other in whatever it takes. Moreover, after understanding the situation, guide your partner and help him/her get through it.
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Fuel-up Your Relationship
Going on vacations & giving surprises are the essential fuels to run the marriage smoothly. Small gestures like surprising your spouse by getting a rose or planning a vacation are a few things that can act as boosters to strengthen your marriage. Additionally, have good physical and emotional intimacy and engage in what makes your partner happy.
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Respect Each Other & Stay Calm
Respect in verbal language and patience – both are somewhere lost nowadays. Individuals should stay calm, especially while dealing with relationships, and give respect – not only to their partner but also to their family. Remember, anger can ruin precious relationships in a way to never get them back again.
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Love Yourself
In the entire process of working and managing relationships as well as family, we forget to take care of ourselves. Partners cherish when their spouses take care of the body and carry themselves well. Also, in this process, you stay fit, thus healthier too. It is said that “To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
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Don’t Let Iagos Interfere
One of the major reasons for the problems in marital life is the Iagos, who create problems in a couple’s life. Out of jealousy, revenge, or sometimes because of their nature, such people intentionally create misunderstandings and put the couple in trouble. So, if you find any such people influencing your relationship, talk to your partner or your and your partner’s parents so they can help you sort it out.
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Plan Activities Together
The hectic lifestyles are adding up to the weakening of marriage bonds. Engaging in activities is a great way to strengthen the marriage. Moreover, it comes with added benefits. Couples can choose to play a sport of their choice, thereby maintaining their physical health, or learn anything new that interests both. This way, a couple can spend at least an hour more together, yet spicing up conversations.
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Stand by Each Other
In the Saath Vachans that you promise your partner, one of them is to stand with each other in every happiness or sorrow. Unfortunately, most partners, rather than supporting, put one another down. A good couple who supports each other in any consequences, and at least in public, maintains the respect that their partner aspires to and keeps the altercations private.
Takeaway
Remember, small gestures make huge differences in a relationship. Initially, it might seem a bit not easy, but it is definitely not impossible to make a marriage successful. Everything can change if both partners work to strengthen the marriage.
In case you have any questions regarding your married life problems, drop them in the comments section below, and we shall get back to you.
